You become the solution for you. Don't point to another person and say, "Now you owe me and you need to give me more." Instead, give more to yourself up to fullness, to where now you can overflow in giving. - Dr. John Gray-
- Charles Haanel -
" To acquire love... fill yourself up with it until you become a magnet"
You become the solution for you. Don't point to another person and say, "Now you owe me and you need to give me more." Instead, give more to yourself up to fullness, to where now you can overflow in giving. - Dr. John Gray-
" To acquire love... fill yourself up with it until you become a magnet"- Charles Haanel
" To acquire love... fill yourself up with it until you become a magnet"
- Charles Haanel -
....When you want to attract something into your life, make sure your actions don't contradict your desires.
pg.115 if the Secrets
" You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself.-Jim Rohm-"
I'd been thinking that "at some point, we are left with no choice but to -keep on. No rooms for complaints and no rooms for excuses; the only room left is for us to chose to be better or get bitter. And most of the time that's what 'changes' leave us for. Better or Bitter. So, learn how to sail and flow along the current. Rough times are not meant to be experience for a long period of time, it is just season in life. But we need to remember the spand of time that 'it' stay depends on our response, for " EVENT + RESPONSE = OUTCOME"
Life itself is not made by luck but It is shape by every decision and action that was made. And success will only happen when we learn to acknowledge that we are the one who create everything that happens in our spectrum. That means all result, both successes or failures.
IT IS quite to get approval if ask enough people, or if we ask those who are likely to tell us what we want to hear. The likehood is that they will say nice things rather than be too critical. Also, we tend to edit out the bad so what we hear only what we want to hear.
So if you have produced a pleasantly acceptable piece of work, you will proved to yourself that it's good simply because others have said so.
It is probably ok. But then it's probably not great either.
If, instead of seeking approval, you ask, 'what's wrong with it? Ho can i make it better?', you are more likely to get a truthful, critical answer.
You may even get an improvement on your idea. And you are still in a position to reject the criticism if you think it is wrong.
Can you find fault with this?
What you learn at school are facts, known facts. your job at school is to accumulate and remember facts. the more you can remember, the better you do.
those who fail at school are not interested in facts; or maybe the facts are not put to them in a way they find interesting.
Some people simply don't have a great faculty for memory. It doesn't mean they are stupid/ It means their imagination hasn't been fired up by academic tuition.
People who are conventionally clever get jobs on their qualifications (the past), not on their desire to succeed (the future).
Very simply, they get overtaken by those who continually strive to be better they are.
As long as the goal is there, there is no limit to anyone's achievement.
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In life we will be meeting alot of different people with different personality, character, vision and inspiration - and that is part of our "shaping" and this shaping is part of what we called CHANGE. And change is the only constant thing in life that most us, human, don't like. But hey! that what life is about - to keep on moving. Everyday we are blending with the crowd, but I hope, as we blend along we will not be losing the part that made each of us 'remarkable'. Anyway, here is the point :
It's not about what you can get from these people but the whole point is what do they can get from you, that's what matter most, in point of view
In life we will be meeting alot of different people with different personality, character, vision and inspiration - and that is part of our "shaping" and this shaping is part of what we called CHANGE. And change is the only constant thing in life that most us, human, don't like. But hey! that what life is about - to keep on moving. Everyday we are blending with the crowd, but I hope, as we blend along we will not be losing the part that made each of us 'remarkable'. Anyway, here is the point :
It's not about what you can get from these people but the whole point is what do they can get from you, that's what matter most, in point of view
"If we don't get lost, we'll never find a new route (Joan Littlewood)"
Failures and false starts are a precondition of success...
The money isn't plentiful enough. The joy isn't deep enough. The book isn't big enough. The aplause isn't sustained enough. The relationship isn't big enough. The ecstasy isn't long enough. The permanence sn't prrmanent enough. The landscape isn't maginative enough. The garden isn't fragrant eoug. And so it goes, as Kurt Vonnegut aid. Life goes on, and everything ends. And along with it, the satisfaction derived from success.
Success is never enough... that the road to success has no end. There's only farther, beyond where you were yesterday, with no end to the walking, the eating, the questioning, the doubting, the frustration of getting a pebble in your shoe, of running out of water, of looking for your next meal, of having your next altercation with someone who is really, really pissed off being a caught unawares on the Road to Success, discovering much to his or her unenlightened distates that he or she was duped, that Success isn't everything it's craked up to be, having known it all the same, but having ignored what he or she knew, hoping that somehow it would be different. Success idn't anything. You can't get there. You can't own it. It doesn't exist. And nothing that's nothing can give anyone anything, other than a longing for something more substantial.
One day a man had an accident while driving to work. He got out of the car and yelled at the other driver, "Lady! You need to learn how to drive. You're the fourth person that's hit me today."In life, we can get to a point sometimes where, like this man, we're always pointing fingers and placing the blame on others. But there comes a time when we need to look inside and say, "Maybe I'm the one that needs to change."If you're finding fault all the time and developing a habit of seeing the bad rather than the good, if you're skeptical and have trained yourself to be cynical and sarcastic rather than believing the best, if you're constantly blaming everyone for everything that's going wrong in your life, then maybe it's time to look inward instead of at others.Just like the man who had the accident while driving to work; if he had been hit four times in one day, obviously, he's the one doing something wrong!One thing I've learned is a critical spirit will follow you everywhere you go. You can't get away from it. You can leave one job angry, upset and bitter and go around saying, "They didn't treat me right." "My boss doesn't know what he's doing." "Nobody can do anything right." But if you don't deal with the root issue, you'll have the same problem at the next job or in your next relationship. You'll still think everybody is against you. It's because the problem is inward and not outward.love what Jesus said to people that were always placing the blame on others and looking at what others need to fix all the time instead of looking at their own lives. He said, "Get the telephone pole out of your eye before you try to get the toothpick out of your brother's eye." What He was saying is, "Look inside. Deal with your own issues. Spend your time trying to improve your own life, and you'll have a whole lot less time for being critical and judgmental."When I come to the end of my days and stand before God, and He says, " what did you do with the time that I entrusted you with? How did you use the gifts that I gave you?"I would hate to have to say, "God, I spent my life criticizing others, knocking people down and trying to make them look bad, placing the blame on others and stirring everything up."I have a hard time believing that God is going to say, "Well done, you good and faithful servant. You did just what I asked!"No, I imagine God is going to say, "Do me a favor. Clean your own window; look inward before you come up here. If not, before long, you'll be finding fault with Me."Today, you can make the switch. You can work on cleaning your own windows. You can wipe away the judgment, criticism, and fault finding, which may be the things that have held you back for years. Love believes the best in others. It always sees the good. And when there is blame or a fault to be found, instead of looking outward, first look inward.Don't be afraid to look inward and humble yourself before God. After all, when we're humble, we give God the opportunity to promote and bless us.1 Peter 5:6
"Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time." (KJV)The Message says, "So be content with who you are, and don't put on airs. God's strong hand is on you; he'll promote you at the right time. Live carefree before God; he is most careful with you."
Like learning how to ride a bicycle, you need to focus your eyes ahead of the way, balance your self, adjust the speed when you want to do a turn. The point here is that, life itself is like that, focus for the longterm goal, it might be difficult at first to balance and learn how to hit the road but along the way you shall learn how to, just keep your focus no matter how bumpy the road at times. Fix your attention on 'one thing' and never focus your thoughts on what you are not capable of executing at the moment.
"Sometimes... achievement can mean choosing new direction until goals become clearer..."
Finding the answer will take deeo thinking. Widen your horizon, seek out new friends and activities, and search for unthought-of rewards that will make success worth its price to you.
If you really want something, that want will make a difference in your life. You'll work to satisfy that want. You'll sacrifice pleasure for it. You'll even be willing to change and grow for it. In fact you'll deliberately change yourself and grow so that you can have what you really want. But for you won't do any of these things for 'mere wishes'.
"Success is the result of good judgment. Good judgment is the result of experience, and experience is the result of bad judgment. Bad or painful experiences are sometimes the most important."
If your willing to learn from your experience, then even times you might think difficult become great because they provide valuable information-- key distinctions-- you can use for better approach in decision making.
As what Anthony Robbins said: Make a decision and take action, and in order to succeed, you must have a long-term focus. Success and failure are not overnight experiences. It's all the small decisions along the way that cause people to fail. It's failure to persist. It's failure to manage our mental and emotional states. It's failure to control whar we focus on. Success is the result of making small decisions: deciding to hold yourself to a higher standard, deciding to feed your mind rahter than allowing the environment to control you.
" Fact: Business, careers, relationships, studies, we all have setbacks. There are many Ups and downs. But it's how you handle the difficult situation that makes the difference. "
Setbacks are setbacks, but it must not stop you going or getting what you want. it may sound lame but sometimes setbacks happens for-- growth-- but still its depending on the attitude you have with you and how you set your perspective, and that's important.
Achieving Success is a never-ending process that runs through all areas of our lives. It requires us to focus on a long-term goal while simultaneously attending to all of life's details. it demand that we excel at each task and make the best possible choices along the way. Possitive attitude illuminates a career -- and a life--- that has demonstrated a remarkable staying power (purtant).
" It's not really about theories, yes, it plays a big part but the core part of all success is who really you are as a whole. A theory without a 'YOU' (principles, ethics et etc.,) is vid."
It was last june 2009 I had attended a redcross training. Well, I was expecting more outdoor activities but what happened was very opposite to what i was expecting. It was lame at first, it was like ' what's this?" but along the run of the said training, I was fascinated, with the message of "INGREDIENTS". What i am trying to point out is, If you live only for a theory without even internalizing it inside you and connecting it to the things you live for, you cannot create a green line out of you.
The concentration in most companies is put on the euro, dollar value rather than the people, but if you take care of the people, you will generate the profit that you are looking for. just don't concentrate on it. Money is all right as long as you keep in your hand and not your heart. Material things are just a minor part of the whole thing.
"If you don't have a selling system of your own when you are face-to-face with a prospect, you will likely lose control of the sales call; prospects have a system of their own. The prospects' system never says, 'sold,' it says, 'salesperson loses' (Sandler)."
Start with a need, a desire and then a simple idea, and you have the nucleus of a successful venture. Make the right choices -- especially the choice to move ahead -- then create a system to deliver the product or service repeatedly over the years...
and remember that...
1. The child ego state wants to buy
2. The parent ego state gives the permission
3. And the adult ego state makes the decision
Ok, I must admit that i love football games and the underlying principle it has (I just knew that today) and i must say that all are the same, may it be life, business, or in sports.
( owner of the photo Alexis Ohanian )
One coach said :
"... If you do not learn to execute the fundamentals falwlessly, you will never be a champion on or off the field. It doesn't matter if you are talking about football, school, or work,... you must learn the FUNDAMENTALS and do the drills that will make you successful in your continuing education. When you go on to your profession and careers, you will see that there are fundamentals that you must learn in order to be a champion in your profession. Only those of you who are willing to develop the physical and mental conditioning necessary to execute these fundamentals will ever succeed in football or in life. This is something you must choose. I can't choose it for you. I can't make you do these things. You have to want to do these things in order to succeed. Your decision today will determine the kind of team this is going to be and the kind of person you will grow into. i'm simply your coach YOU ARE THE ONE WHO MUST HAVE THE DESIRE TO EXECUTE THE FUNDAMENTALS, day IN and day OUT."
Alas, i forgot the coach's name. Oh well..
Most of the time, the things that we thought none sense and waste of time, are the things that makes a BIG sense at all, and what we thought very simple is the hardest to perform/do. Don't just 'jump and jump' from one thing to another without mastering the fundamentals. Master the BASIC, know what are your strenght as well as your weak points then work on it, be better. No one says its easy - It takes YOU and your WILL."Not every decision you make has to be a good one. Just make sure that you make more good ones than bad ones --and when you make a bad one, minimize the impact by fixing it quickly (ivan misner)."
The biggest lessons are not from the successes we have, but they were from the every losses we had experienced. If you don't want to commit any mistakes then you will never fully understand what learning really signify. Keep on trying, don't be afraid to make wrong decisions, just remember what you had learn from the past wrong choices,and as much as possible avoid repeating them.
There's really nothing to lose, only something to gain, whatever the choices you makes or actions you take in life, as what jeffers said " for security is not having things; it's handling things."
"Don't worry about your competition, Who cares what they are doing or what they charge? Worry about your customers. Always give back to your community. It empowers you and your employees."
Competition is good, it's one way of challenging the YOU and knowing more about what you are like, such as: how you think, how you compete, how you react when others are acting like a 'shark'. You don't have to worry about your competitors there's nothing much on them that you can do except only proving the YOU. Instead, worry more about your customers, to meet their needs and to give them the best service that you can give. You will see that you multiply the YOU - that's more than competing.
"There's nothing wrong in wanting MORE in life, business, relationship. For wanting more is the nature of our soul (John Gray)."
The soul is always willing to be more; the mind is always seeking to do more and know more; the heart is always longing to love more and have more; and the senses are always wanting to enjoy more. Wanting more and having less is not the cause of our unhappiness. Unhappiness is simply the lack of inner joy and has nothing to do with our external condition. The real cause of our unhappiness is the absence of joy. Unhappiness is similar to darkness. Darkness is the absence of light.
Every experience or condition in your life -- poverty or riches, success or failure, health or illness -- is the result of action and purpose set in motion by you, for you are the architect of your destiny (John K. Williams).
There is no situation that occurs without you permitting it to happen, no emotion felt without you letting your self feeling the emotion and there is no changes that can take place in your life, in your relationship or in your business if you yourself will not change first. It's all yours, your WILL. What concept do you have in your life? how small or tall/ big the things do you want to create? again, it's all up to you. How far do you want to go, the choice is yours, the decision is yours - if you want too see it happen.
Not all that you feel are true and not all that you assume are correct, that is why it is so important to make CLARIFICATIONS. Most of the time, what we're feeling is dependent on our past experiences or the way we are. For example :
You have a small business and you have two clients, they are Mr. White and Mr. Black and you are about to do a business deal with them. To Mr. white - you've been so nice, you gave him good sale. But with Mr. black you stereotyped him, you deceived him and you did not gave the same sale,deal though it's the same product.
Now, let's say you are the salesperson who made that deal, you know what you did is not right and there's something wrong with your treatment. Your thinking is affected by your past action. The way you perceive one person's action is dependent on who you are, the way you treat others, and also from your past experiences. Whether you agree to this or not, your subconscious can attest to this.
Like what Mr. Splashy ( Alexis Ohanian ) have said to one of his talk nTED - be genuine, be clear , be sincere . This is the very basic principle of all, may it be business or your personal relationship.
Our public life is the reflection of our private life.
Tout ce que vous pensez devient une réalité
Ce à quoi vous pensez maintenant façonnera votre vie future. Vous créez votre vie avec vos pensées. Vous créez sans arrêt parce que vous pensez sans arrêt. Ce à quoi vous pensez plus ou ce sur a quoi vous vous concentrez le plus, est ce qui se manifestera dans votre vie. La loi est un mirroir et vous renvoie exactement ce sur quoi vous concentrez vos pensées.
Votre esprit exprime des pensées et les images qui y correspondent vous sont renvoyées les images qui y correspondent vous sont renvoyées sous forme d'expériences de vie. Vous façonnez non seulement votre vie avec vos pensées, mais vos pensées contrtibuent grandement à la création du monde ( Fred Alan Wolf )
Our thoughts affects our action, that's why it's so important for us to think what is good, what is healthy and something that is beneficial - which can uplift us, YOU. Being POSSITIVE is more realistic than being NEGAVATIVE.
" You can find reason and purpose in everything - if you open your mind to it.
" A general never knows anything with certainty, never sees his enemy clearly, and never knows positively where he is "
from NAPOLEON
We all create expectation of what we would like to happen after a decision is made. The picture in our mind's eye might have serve a valuable function in helping to make a decision. But once the decision is made, let the picture go. Since you can't control the future, the picture can create unhappiness if it's not the good that can come out of every situation in which you find yourself.
Unexpected opportunities can create more of value than your original picture. If you are focused on "the way it's supposed to be," you might miss the opportunity to enjoy the way it is or to have it to be wonderful in a totally different way from what you imagined. ( S.jeffer )
" yes, i admit that my life, my studies, my business is not working the way i want them to work out. "
I invested so much of my time, effort , money , my ideas and all went to nothing! such a waste! i don't want to try anymore, i don't wan't to venture out! I'm such a FAILURE! ENOUGH! a voice of a frustrated , disappointed enterpreneurs, starters and students. But isn't it that life is all about venturing and business is the whole thing of gambling? Isn't that we are all familiar with the line " we learn through our mistakes" and it all so happen that if we commit 'mistakes' we see ourself at the gate of " failures" entering slowly. The mistakes you committed is not the reason of why you are in a messirable situation, it is the way you set your perspective and the permission that you give to Mr. Fear to imprison and withold you for initiating a possitive action. There's nothing wrong with fear but to let it pull you down that what makes it wrong, just feel it but don't let it stop you doing what you want or what you ought to do. Accept fear as FACT OF LIFE rather than a barrier to succes ( S.Jeffer ).
" Set your perspective correctly and be the first encourager of yourself"
I remember what S. jeffer had said, she said -
'the most important thing is for you to be your own bestfriend and whatever your are doing - DON'T PUT YOURSELF DOWN!' ...just as each decision is an opportunity to learn, each "mistakes" is also an opportunity to learn, rendering it impossible to make a mistake. A great researcher, having "failed" two hundred times before he found the answer to no one of his burning questions, was asked, " doesn't it bother you that you failed all those times?" His answer was "I never failed! I discovered two hundred ways not to do something!"
Maybe i'm young , but not too young to understand the cycle of life ,in my view, maturity is not seen in the number of age, i presume. A couple of weeks ago, i went out with someone, i don't have any back ground about him all i know , he's a student and he help foreign students ( for exchange conversation). A friend introduced me to him and that is for my french conversation to fastly improve, that's the main point. We'd talked and discussed alot of things from cars designs to history of countries, along the conversation he had asked me if i like the 'study' that i'm doing ( not the french language ) i answered him 'yes, though it's not my first choice' he asked further , " what's your first choice then? " i answered him " business/ psychology" he asked again "why didn't you studied it if that's what you want" i told him " that don't make sense at all in my country and considering my family have nothing to give to start a business " i answered him straightly. he keep on asking me questions like " what business you want to get started " and so on... to make it short he want to invest business with me ( hilarious it sounds ), cause that was the first time we had a conversation and for someone to invest a big amount of money as fast as that. The point is,
it's how you make your client feel from the first sit that they'll sign you a big check but what i realized since i was 10 years old was " don't be deceive with the appearance, treat all equally and genuinely may it be young or not, professional or not everyone deserve the same amount of attention and respect."
You never know who you are meeting and knowing everyday , it's great to bring the character with you. its shameful to treat people just because they look better than others. that's so stereotyping mindset.
