" You can find reason and purpose in everything - if you open your mind to it.
" A general never knows anything with certainty, never sees his enemy clearly, and never knows positively where he is "
from NAPOLEON
We all create expectation of what we would like to happen after a decision is made. The picture in our mind's eye might have serve a valuable function in helping to make a decision. But once the decision is made, let the picture go. Since you can't control the future, the picture can create unhappiness if it's not the good that can come out of every situation in which you find yourself.
Unexpected opportunities can create more of value than your original picture. If you are focused on "the way it's supposed to be," you might miss the opportunity to enjoy the way it is or to have it to be wonderful in a totally different way from what you imagined. ( S.jeffer )
" yes, i admit that my life, my studies, my business is not working the way i want them to work out. "
I invested so much of my time, effort , money , my ideas and all went to nothing! such a waste! i don't want to try anymore, i don't wan't to venture out! I'm such a FAILURE! ENOUGH! a voice of a frustrated , disappointed enterpreneurs, starters and students. But isn't it that life is all about venturing and business is the whole thing of gambling? Isn't that we are all familiar with the line " we learn through our mistakes" and it all so happen that if we commit 'mistakes' we see ourself at the gate of " failures" entering slowly. The mistakes you committed is not the reason of why you are in a messirable situation, it is the way you set your perspective and the permission that you give to Mr. Fear to imprison and withold you for initiating a possitive action. There's nothing wrong with fear but to let it pull you down that what makes it wrong, just feel it but don't let it stop you doing what you want or what you ought to do. Accept fear as FACT OF LIFE rather than a barrier to succes ( S.Jeffer ).
" Set your perspective correctly and be the first encourager of yourself"
I remember what S. jeffer had said, she said -
'the most important thing is for you to be your own bestfriend and whatever your are doing - DON'T PUT YOURSELF DOWN!' ...just as each decision is an opportunity to learn, each "mistakes" is also an opportunity to learn, rendering it impossible to make a mistake. A great researcher, having "failed" two hundred times before he found the answer to no one of his burning questions, was asked, " doesn't it bother you that you failed all those times?" His answer was "I never failed! I discovered two hundred ways not to do something!"
Maybe i'm young , but not too young to understand the cycle of life ,in my view, maturity is not seen in the number of age, i presume. A couple of weeks ago, i went out with someone, i don't have any back ground about him all i know , he's a student and he help foreign students ( for exchange conversation). A friend introduced me to him and that is for my french conversation to fastly improve, that's the main point. We'd talked and discussed alot of things from cars designs to history of countries, along the conversation he had asked me if i like the 'study' that i'm doing ( not the french language ) i answered him 'yes, though it's not my first choice' he asked further , " what's your first choice then? " i answered him " business/ psychology" he asked again "why didn't you studied it if that's what you want" i told him " that don't make sense at all in my country and considering my family have nothing to give to start a business " i answered him straightly. he keep on asking me questions like " what business you want to get started " and so on... to make it short he want to invest business with me ( hilarious it sounds ), cause that was the first time we had a conversation and for someone to invest a big amount of money as fast as that. The point is,
it's how you make your client feel from the first sit that they'll sign you a big check but what i realized since i was 10 years old was " don't be deceive with the appearance, treat all equally and genuinely may it be young or not, professional or not everyone deserve the same amount of attention and respect."
You never know who you are meeting and knowing everyday , it's great to bring the character with you. its shameful to treat people just because they look better than others. that's so stereotyping mindset.
